No, folks, it’s not a trick question. For the guys, of course the answer is simple – a squirt of spray-tan and a dash of cologne should suffice. For girls, though, they are various options, each with its own appeal.
Dressing down – a skimpy outfit, perhaps even a bikini, showing plenty of well-toned flesh but still within the bounds of modesty. The advantage of this approach is that it gets the guys really stirred up and gives them that tantalising so-close-and-yet-so-far feeling. If you want to make a powerful first impression and see erections popping out wherever you turn, this could be the option to go for.
Going fetish. Depending on the note you want to strike, again there are various options. If you’re a girl with a sadistic streak, then black leather and fishnet stockings accentuate the femdom aspect of CFNM. Wear a pair of sleek long boots to a CFNM event, and you’ll soon find several naked guys sniffing around them, eager to give them a polish. Alternatively, you might slant your outfit towards some other kind of costume – perhaps hints of the naughty schoolgirl look, if teasing older guys is your bag.
Dressing casual. The I-just-don’t-care, girl next door look. Skinny jeans and a long-sleeved tee and a look of surly indifference will give the guys the impression that you expect male nudity as your due.
Dressing up. Nothing makes a guy feel more naked than the sight of a girl in a cute, floaty little frock. A figure-hugging shape with plenty of skin coverage is the best of both worlds. Watch them idolize your ladylike appearance from afar, then sigh with pleasure as your brush the silky fabric against their bare skin.
No-nos. Nip-slips, gauzy transparent tops and flashing the cat should be avoided at all costs. It might not seem like much at the time, but just so much as the glimpse of the edge of an aureole can deflate that special, heady CFNM magic.
Needless to say, what you wear will also depend on the exact nature of the occasion (tea party, club-event, house or pool party) but there’s no doubt that the ladies’ sartorial choices can have a great influence on the success, and sexiness, of a CFNM event.
Some people find CFNM a completely topsy-turvy fetish. According to them, everything’s the wrong way round. Girls are (generally) prettier than guys, so surely it’s the girls who should be shedding their clothes, their nakedness the centre of attention? Right? What sane guy would want some knockout chick to stay dressed from head to foot, and take the role of parading around in the nude upon himself?
Actually, a huge part of the appeal of CFNM lies precisely in that flipping of expectations. For girls, it can be wonderful to escape being the centre of attention, to become the voyeur rather than the exhibitionist. And vice versa for guys.
But men and women also have a very different attitude to the clothes they wear. For men, their suits, shirts and jackets are practical, social, they help to impress, to ward off the elements, to disguise flaws. But when it comes to sex, sensuality, intimacy – then they are little more than an impediment. By stripping down, a man makes a statement that he is relaxed, off his guard, approachable.
While women use clothes in some of the same ways, ultimately their relationship with their wardrobes is much more all-encompassing. Clothes aren’t just about projecting an image for the outside world. They’re also about weaving fantasies, creating a special magic, especially inside the boudoir.
This fantasy can be just as powerful for the man as for the woman, especially when he is nude. Nudity is his entrance ticket to her fantasy world – a price well-worth paying. Without the distraction of his own apparel, he can fully absorb the loveliness of her clothed body and, if he is fortunate, get to feel her silk, chiffon and lace on his own bare skin.
So take your clothes off, you lucky boys.
Some of you might know that I’m quite partial to a bit of little dick. Why? Well, for starters, if a male only has a tiny little bobbin to show, it ramps up the humiliation, the smiles and laughter, the transfer of power from guy to girl, taking the whole principle of CFNM to its logical conclusion. I also happen to be fond of anything miniature. Plus you have to admire the “I haven’t got it but I’m going to flaunt it anyway” attitude.
Needless to say, those handsome studs at ExtremeCFNM offer only the biggest, chunkiest, hardest dicks. And no hetero lady in her right mind is going to turn up her nose at a pair of strong thighs, a set of rippling abs and, somewhere in the middle, a length of prime flesh soaring in defiance of gravity. But my point is, a dick doesn’t necessarily have to be big and hard to give pleasure to a girl. A small dick can be cute and funny. And a detumescent dick can also be very sensuous in its own right.
Picture a guy sprawled naked on a bed, relaxed, asleep. Reclining next to him, a girl in lingerie. She’s awake, her eyes drawn to the soft penis slumbering on the man’s thigh. Snuggling next to him, she rests her cheek on his lap. Nuzzling closer, she brushes her pretty nose and lips against his cock, enjoying its warmth, its silkiness, its subtle tremors of life. She kisses it, then pokes out her tongue, and finally it stirs playfully, waking, poking her back. A floppy, flaccid dick is a playmate, something to cuddle up to and joke around with, and it’s full of the promise of future excitements.
Not all dicks are equal. Some are big and flashy, the celebs of the dick world. Some are quirky comedy dicks. Others are shy and in danger of being overlooked. But whether hard or soft, big or small, any dick is worth at least a second look.